The Balanced Walk: The Word-centered Life

by Natalie LaValley

In my exploration of the previous four streams of Christianity, I’ve described some of their corresponding disciplines for spiritual growth. That assumes a starting point. It may be difficult to identify an exact moment when you became interested in spiritual matters. It may have started with a tragic experience that left you grasping for more, or you might have grown up in a Christian family and experienced gradual change.

However or whenever you came to follow Christ, the Bible indicates that there is a key transition from “the dominion of darkness” to “the kingdom of the Son” (Col. 1:13). It does not necessarily mean we can point to a precise moment when we believed. But our transition from spiritual death to life occurs when we come to believe that Jesus’ death and resurrection – and nothing else – pays for our sins (John 3:16-18; Rom. 10:9).

When we are “born again,” the Holy Spirit enters us. In that moment, a transformation occurs in which Christ cleanses us of sin and presents us as righteous to His Father. At the same time, however, we do not yet perfectly reflect the image of Christ. From that point on, we enter the process of spiritual growth.

The evangelical stream recognizes the staggering importance of the decision to trust in Christ alone for salvation. As a result, the evangelical disciplines focus on clearly presenting the message of the gospel to everyone. It also emphasizes having a correct understanding of the Bible.

From a spiritual discipline perspective, the Holy Spirit can use our careful and consistent reading of the Bible to develop the evangelical emphasis. We can easily fall into the habit of superficial or purely academic involvement with Scripture, and thus the writer of Hebrews points out:

For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. Hebrews 4:12

In other words, we are not commanded to simply master the topics of the Bible. We are to engage in the Word in such a way that its living truth masters our thoughts, perspectives, and actions. The disciplines of Scripture reading, meditation, reflection and memorization powerfully help us to base our lives on truth.

Jesus and the Evangelical Stream

Jesus says, “I am the way and the truth and the life,” “I am the bread of life,” “I am the light of the world,” “I am the good shepherd,” and “I am the resurrection and the life.” He is God’s gift that we receive through faith, the one and only path to the Father.

Jesus is the Word of God living among us in the flesh, as John tells us in John 1.  He is the good news of the Kingdom, which He not only proclaims but also demonstrates. Some people, such as Zacchaeus, Mary Magdalene and the Samaritan woman, received the good news for themselves and entered into the Kingdom. Others like Judas, the rich young ruler, and many of the religious rulers held back.

Jesus then commanded His followers to proclaim and demonstrate the good news. While people commonly think of the Great Commission (Matt. 28:18-20) as Jesus commanding His followers to “go” and to “make disciples,” this is a misunderstanding. The form of the verb translated as “go” is not that of a command but rather of something that has already been happening and will continue to happen. So a better understanding of it would be, “as you are going, make disciples of nations, baptizing them . . . and teaching them to obey . . . .” The command and emphasis is not to “go” but to “make disciples.” Part of making disciples includes baptizing and teaching. With Jesus as our model, the evangelical stream emphasizes how we are to also proclaim the good news of God’s Kingdom as we go through our lives, whether we go overseas or not.

Example from History

During the late Middle Ages, some church leaders began to distort the Gospel message for profit, a temptation that Satan loves to use to try to disgrace many different churches even today. In the sixteenth century, biblical scholars such as Martin Luther and John Calvin, through study of the Word, proclaimed the gospel of salvation by grace and through faith alone. They helped lay people to understand that they did not need to spend their earnings on indulgences or other such things to earn eternal life.

Three Themes

The evangelical stream comprises three themes.

  1. The faithful proclamation of the gospel, which is the good news of personal redemption through the work of Jesus Christ on the cross. Jesus invites us all into a relationship, and when we receive it, He gives us the responsibility and honor to share the good news with others.

  2. Scripture is a faithful container of the gospel. Scripture takes precedence over personal experience, dreams, visions, and traditions.

  3. The New Testament, especially the epistles and later the early church councils, set forth the essential doctrine of the Christian faith.

A Word of Caution

Before we move on to the sixth stream of Christianity, a word of advice and encouragement to learn from others is important. The divergence of the six streams throughout church history has resulted not only to opposition between streams but also different “currents” within individual streams. In history, Christians have even resorted to killing other Christians for practicing a different stream. Our own hostility may not go that far, but that doesn’t mean it does not exist.

Have you ever wondered which “definition” of Christianity is correct? If you have much experience in churches, you likely picked up the idea that there is a “right” and “wrong” answer to every question, even ones about non-essential doctrine. Especially if you grew up in church, it’s easy to pick up the idea that there are many different kinds of Christians, but yours is the best, and when you all get to Heaven, everyone else will see that you were right all along. But do you actually think that when we all get together in paradise, God is going to give one group a “Defenders of Truth” trophy, while shaking His head sadly at everyone else?

What if, instead, we all practiced Christ’s virtue of humility? If we are to become like the multifaceted Christ, we need to admit that we all have our strengths and weaknesses. We can endeavor to be like a tree with roots drawing water from all of these streams so we can more fully flourish.

Of course, some doctrinal issues are essential, but myriads more are non-essential and varying in importance. The evangelical theme, to clarify, is not the only stream that affirms that salvation comes by grace through faith in Jesus alone; rather, it is the stream that emphasizes teaching this message as part of our post-salvation spiritual walks. These six streams are not differences of essential doctrine but different ways of conforming ourselves to the image of Christ. If we focus on only a couple aspects, we miss other important ways of reflecting Him.

The Balanced Walk: The Compassionate Life

by Natalie LaValley

As we’ve seen in the previous posts, the Christian walk is a personal relationship with God (the contemplative stream). It also means imitating Christ’s virtues (the holiness stream) and using our spiritual gifts for the ministry God has called us to (the charismatic stream). The fourth part is the social justice stream, which focuses on using God’s power for compassionately transforming of the world around us. This stream recognizes that social injustices such as human trafficking, domestic violence, poverty, child abuse, and others grieve and anger God. By helping to restore justice, we point people to the existence of a good and just God. 

Before we consider how to make a difference in the world, let’s examine ourselves. Whether or not we realize it, each of us has a position of influence. Some of us may be parents, teachers, managers, church leaders, or ministry volunteers. We must be sure to exercise our power in just and compassionate ways, looking to God as our example. As an omnipotent being, God could do anything He wanted, yet He always acts with justice and compassion.

God’s most powerful display of justice and compassion is the redemption of humankind. When Adam sinned and condemned all of humanity with corruption, God sent His Son to take on our sin and punishment so that everyone who believes in Him can receive His righteousness and eternal life. God did not offer redemption out of loving feelings that overrode His justice. He didn’t let humanity “get away” with sinning without a price. Rather, through sacrificing His Son, God’s love and justice acted in perfect unity.

God’s passion for justice emerges as a prominent theme throughout both the Old and New Testament. One of the most frequent complaints He brings against the Israelites again and again is that they oppress the widow and the orphan (the two most vulnerable members of Israelite society). This corruption is so serious that God sends other unjust societies to oppress the Israelites again and again to make them realize their error and repent. God cared this deeply about His people refraining from corruption because only as a just and righteous society could Israel point other nations to Him. Even today, one of (if not the most) common reasons people reject Christianity is the injustice in the world. “How can there be a good God when so much evil exists?” people wonder. As Christians, we must partner with God’s redemptive work in the world to show people that, though we have have brought sin into God’s creation, His power and goodness will restore it. Be alert to God’s leading. When you sense Him calling you to show His redemptive love in a situation that cries out for justice, no matter how small or large, respond in obedience.

He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and walk humbly with your God.” Micah 6:8

Jesus and the Social Justice Stream

Jesus commenced His ministry by standing in the synagogue and declaring, “The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to release the oppressed, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor” (Luke 4:18-19).

The Old Testament prophetic vision of the year of the Lord’s favor was a special year (called Jubilee) when the land rested from producing crops, debts were forgiven, and those imprisoned because of debts were freed. Other social justices were also corrected during this year.

In effect, Jesus was announcing that, because of Him, all future time would be an ongoing “year of the Lord’s favor.” John the Baptist also pointed to this when he declared, “Repent for the kingdom of heaven is near” (Matt. 3:2). Jesus ushered in the kingdom of heaven with a ministry of compassion for those oppressed by society: the lepers, the prostitutes, the demonized, the poor, the chronically ill, and the grieving. He even had compassion for the religious leaders who wielded often corrupt power over the rest of society. He wanted them to experience the freedom of becoming humble like a child and entering His kingdom.

The Beatitudes encapsulate the radical kind of kingdom Jesus calls His followers to establish:

“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.” Matthew 5:3-12

 Example in History

 After his conversion to Christianity, William Wilberforce wondered if he needed to withdraw from his political position in the British Parliament. During that time, the upper class generally viewed religious enthusiasm as a social transgression in polite society and treated it with scorn. However, John Newton advised Wilberforce to remain in politics, and from then on, Wilberforce allowed his new convictions to guide him in his position of influence. 

 Inspired by his faith, and at the urging of several abolitionists, Wilberforce brought the issue of the slave trade to Parliament. He campaigned for its abolition for many years and through many setbacks until finally, in 1807, the Slave Trade Act received a majority vote of 283 to 16. In this way, Wilberforce combined his faith with his influence to bring his nation a major step forward in reforming its injustice. This step led to the Slavery Abolition Act seven years later.

 A Compassionate Life Today

 Even if you don’t hold a powerful position in politics, you can practice the social justice stream. It simply comes down to obeying the two greatest commandments – to love God and to love your neighbor as yourself (Matt. 22:37-40). Whether or not you are called to be an activist, living out these commandments will result in a just and compassionate life, touching all the downtrodden you encounter and pointing them toward Christ.

 If you’d like some more practical ways to apply the social justice stream, download these free “training tips.”

 This blog series draws from the Christ Habits curriculum. If you or your small group could benefit from studying these disciplines more in-depth, you can find the Christ Habits Collection here at our store

 

The Balanced Walk: The Spirit-empowered Life

by Natalie LaValley

While the contemplative stream emphasizes our intimacy with God, the holiness stream focuses on reforming our hearts and practicing virtue. A good biblical summary of the holiness stream comes from James:

In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead. But someone will say, “You have faith, I have deeds.” Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by what I do.”   James 2:17-18

This stream takes into account that we, as physical beings, define ourselves (at least in part) with our actions. Though we are certainly saved by grace and made blameless in God’s sight (Eph. 2:8, 1:4), we don’t automatically act like it. Some people, upon conversion, experience an instant transformation and freedom from sinful habits. That’s not the case for most of us, however. But because we hear those kinds of stories, we often sit on our hands waiting for an emotional rush of God’s love to inspire us to transform and live virtuously. Even if we do get that kind of experience, the transformation may not last unless we make virtue into a habit. We will naturally continue our fleshly habits until we discipline ourselves to replace them with “holy habits.” These disciplines are not about mystically transcending your physical nature but rather bringing it in harmony with your spiritual nature.

Jesus and the Holiness Stream

Jesus obviously modeled the holiness stream by living a sinless life. Though He did not need to practice disciplines to reform Himself, He modeled them and taught others what they must do. He prepared Himself for resisting temptation by fasting forty days and nights in the desert. He also laid out the two essential commandments – to love God with our whole being and to love our neighbor as ourselves – and elaborated and what this looked like in the Sermon on the Mount. Finally, Jesus displayed the most ultimate fulfillment of His teaching by sacrificing Himself on the cross. While on the cross, He continued to model virtue by choosing to forgive His executioners and obediently remaining on the cross instead of saving Himself as He could have done.

Example from History

One historical example of the holiness stream is Phoebe Palmer (1807-1874). She married a Methodist physician, and of the six children she had, three died in childbirth. Then a fourth child died in a tragic accident. In her grief over this loss, she turned to God and vowed that she would spend the time she would have spent raising that child working for Him. She hoped that through her child’s death, many would find life. So Phoebe began a weekly meeting in her home called “The Tuesday Meeting for the Promotion of Holiness.” Thought it was originally intended for women, it grew to include people of both genders and many diverse denominations. The meetings continued for forty years, becoming the spiritual nourishment of some of the most significant Christian leaders of the day as well as the founders, presidents, and other key leaders of universities such as Boston, American, Drew, Northwestern, and the Universities of Michigan and Georgia. The Second Evangelical Awakening can be traced to Phoebe’s ministry.  She taught the “altar theology” that Christ is our altar upon which we place our sacrifice. Because everything that touches the altar is holy, we can live in a state of holiness and sanctification when we place everything we are upon that altar.

Holy Habits

Musicians may have natural talent, but they still have to practice. (My brother who performs virtuosic pieces and is getting a PhD in piano still plays his scales every day.) In the same way, though we have the righteousness of Christ, we cannot think that we’re “beyond” the basics of Christianity. These basics include confession, repentance, and forgiveness.  

With these daily habits comes an emphasis on mind renewal. This is challenging, because our brains are constantly assaulted with the distraction of phones, Internet, apps, TV, social media, radio, billboards, magazines, and endless email notifications. Seeking simplicity by practicing abstinence (such as a social media fast) or limiting distraction (e.g. “no Internet use after 6pm”) helps us, even on a physical level, to empty ourselves and be filled with Christ.

For some concrete ways to practice the Virtuous Life, you can download this free devotional with exercises.

 This blog series draws from the Christ Habits curriculum. If you or your small group could benefit from studying these disciplines more in-depth, you can find the Christ Habits Collection here at our store.

The Balanced Walk: The Virtuous Life

by Natalie LaValley

While the contemplative stream emphasizes our intimacy with God, the holiness stream focuses on reforming our hearts and practicing virtue. A good biblical summary of the holiness stream comes from James:

In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead. But someone will say, “You have faith, I have deeds.” Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by what I do.”   James 2:17-18

This stream takes into account that we, as physical beings, define ourselves (at least in part) with our actions. Though we are certainly saved by grace and made blameless in God’s sight (Eph. 2:8, 1:4), we don’t automatically act like it. Some people, upon conversion, experience an instant transformation and freedom from sinful habits. That’s not the case for most of us, however. But because we hear those kinds of stories, we often sit on our hands waiting for an emotional rush of God’s love to inspire us to transform and live virtuously. Even if we do get that kind of experience, the transformation may not last unless we make virtue into a habit. We will naturally continue our fleshly habits until we discipline ourselves to replace them with “holy habits.” These disciplines are not about mystically transcending your physical nature but rather bringing it in harmony with your spiritual nature.

Jesus and the Holiness Stream

Jesus obviously modeled the holiness stream by living a sinless life. Though He did not need to practice disciplines to reform Himself, He modeled them and taught others what they must do. He prepared Himself for resisting temptation by fasting forty days and nights in the desert. He also laid out the two essential commandments – to love God with our whole being and to love our neighbor as ourselves – and elaborated and what this looked like in the Sermon on the Mount. Finally, Jesus displayed the most ultimate fulfillment of His teaching by sacrificing Himself on the cross. While on the cross, He continued to model virtue by choosing to forgive His executioners and obediently remaining on the cross instead of saving Himself as He could have done.

Example from History

One historical example of the holiness stream is Phoebe Palmer (1807-1874). She married a Methodist physician, and of the six children she had, three died in childbirth. Then a fourth child died in a tragic accident. In her grief over this loss, she turned to God and vowed that she would spend the time she would have spent raising that child working for Him. She hoped that through her child’s death, many would find life. So Phoebe began a weekly meeting in her home called “The Tuesday Meeting for the Promotion of Holiness.” Thought it was originally intended for women, it grew to include people of both genders and many diverse denominations. The meetings continued for forty years, becoming the spiritual nourishment of some of the most significant Christian leaders of the day as well as the founders, presidents, and other key leaders of universities such as Boston, American, Drew, Northwestern, and the Universities of Michigan and Georgia. The Second Evangelical Awakening can be traced to Phoebe’s ministry.  She taught the “altar theology” that Christ is our altar upon which we place our sacrifice. Because everything that touches the altar is holy, we can live in a state of holiness and sanctification when we place everything we are upon that altar.

Holy Habits

Musicians may have natural talent, but they still have to practice. (My brother who performs virtuosic pieces and is getting a PhD in piano still plays his scales every day.) In the same way, though we have the righteousness of Christ, we cannot think that we’re “beyond” the basics of Christianity. These basics include confession, repentance, and forgiveness.  

With these daily habits comes an emphasis on mind renewal. This is challenging, because our brains are constantly assaulted with the distraction of phones, Internet, apps, TV, social media, radio, billboards, magazines, and endless email notifications. Seeking simplicity by practicing abstinence (such as a social media fast) or limiting distraction (e.g. “no Internet use after 6pm”) helps us, even on a physical level, to empty ourselves and be filled with Christ.

For some concrete ways to practice the Virtuous Life, you can download this free devotional with exercises.

 This blog series draws from the Christ Habits curriculum. If you or your small group could benefit from studying these disciplines more in-depth, you can find the Christ Habits Collection here at our store.

The Balanced Walk: The Prayer-filled Life

by Natalie LaValley

As Christians, we know we are supposed to imitate Christ. But Christ was the most multi-dimensional man who ever lived. He was meek and authoritative, quiet and charismatic, gathered crowds and sought solitude.

Paul wrote, “Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus” (Phil. 2:5). Salvation begins this lifelong process of learning to imitate Jesus in all His dimensions. Although we cannot possibly embody the fullness of One who was both God and man, we need to submit to the Holy Spirit’s work in transforming us “with ever increasing glory” as we look upon the Lord (2 Corinthians 3:18).

Because we have unique personalities with different strengths and weaknesses, each of us gravitates toward particular aspects of Christlikeness more than others. Divisions arise when we think our way of imitating Christ is more valid than someone else’s. That is why, though it is unlikely we will achieve perfect balance, we need to at least understand the multidimensional aspects of Jesus. Then we can strive to balance them in our walks with Him and respect others who prioritize those aspects differently.

Richard Foster identifies what he calls “Six Streams of Christianity.” These are six basic aspects of Christ which various Christians have emphasized most strongly throughout Church history. They are generally referred to as follows:

  • The Contemplative Stream/Prayer-filled Life

  • The Holiness Stream/The Virtuous Life

  • The Charismatic Stream/The Spirit-empowered Life

  • The Social Justice Stream/The Compassionate Life

  • The Evangelical Stream/The Word-centered Life

  • The Incarnational Stream/The Sacramental Life

To be a balanced disciple of Christ, we need to develop ourselves in all of these dimensions. Foster paints an image of these six streams flowing together to form a powerful river.

The next five posts will delve into each stream. We’ll look at the first one now.

The Contemplative Stream: The Prayer-filled Life

The prayer-filled life emphasizes Christianity as a personal relationship with God. It focuses on developing intimacy with God.

Jesus and the Contemplative Stream

The gospels show Jesus having a deep and intimate relationship with His Father.

“…Jesus went out to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God.” – Luke 6:12

“Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.” – Mark 1:35

“Don’t you believe that I am in the Father, and that the Father is in me? The words I say to you are not just my own. Rather, it is the Father, living in me, who is doing his work.” – John 14:10

We see that Jesus also taught His disciples how to seek the Father.

“And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by men. I tell you the truth, they have received their reward in full. But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.” – Matthew 6:5-6

Becoming like Christ, then, means seeking intimate times of prayer with the Father. If Christ made a habit of praying in solitude, especially before and after intense times of ministry, so should we. The contemplative stream, more than the others, develops this habit.

A Historical Example

One example of an early Christian who practiced the contemplative stream is the Desert Father, Antony of Egypt (AD 251 – 356). Antony grew up in a wealthy family. But one day, as he studied the Scriptures, he was struck by the command, “Go, sell everything you have and give it to the poor” (Mark 10:21). Though these words were distressing, he also took to heart the verse, “Be anxious for nothing” (Phil. 4:6). He disliked that Christianity was becoming increasingly secularized in his culture, so, in obedience to his convictions, he set out into the Egyptian desert to focus on seeking God without money or worry. Antony spent twenty years in the desert practicing intense spiritual disciplines for the sake of deep communion with God. After those twenty years, he returned to civilization and boldly preached to both the poor and the elite, healing, giving counsel, and casting out demons. He displayed a profound wisdom in his discussion with the intellections. Toward the end of his life, he returned to the solitude of the desert.

Antony’s life is just one, perhaps extreme, example of the contemplative stream. Ultimately this practice focuses on deepening communion with God through developing a prayer-filled life. This kind of prayer life does not just mean delivering laundry lists of requests but also involves listening to God and meditating on truth. While prayer with other believers is important, this stream aims at seeking solitude and moments of silence in order to focus more intensely on God.

If you would like to practice a prayer-filled life, this free devotional download below explains a few spiritual disciplines for you to try.

This blog series draws from the Christ Habits curriculum. If you or your small group could benefit from studying these disciplines more in-depth, you can find the Christ Habits Collection here at our store. 

Proximity Matters: How Closeness Can Lead People to Christ

by Mike Johnson 

It was a winter Sunday morning, and in the lobby of my neighborhood church home after the worship service I met a couple whom I did not recognize. It turned out that they had arrived in town the previous week, moving from an upper Midwest state (who could blame them in January) so the husband could take some specialized classes over the next 4-5 months for work in the energy field. I’ll call them Bob and Sue.

I welcomed them and chatted for a bit.

Over the next several weeks they returned for worship each Sunday. On one of those Sunday evenings the church sponsored a Superbowl party. Each small group was asked to bring a snack and to watch the Superbowl together projected on the wall of the large youth room. Around 45 adults were there that night eating sugar in various forms, some watching the Superbowl intently and cheering their preferred team and others chatting in the back corners. While people were mixing, they naturally tended to hang close to those in their own small groups. 

Bob and Sue came to the event. They greeted the few people they had met as they got their kids situated and helped themselves to snacks. Of course, I greeted them, invited them to sit down, and introduced them to various members of my small group. They seemed to enjoy themselves, feeling welcomed, as we all did. Our group participants invited them to join us for our small group gathering every other Tuesday night.

The next time my small group met, Bob and Sue were there.  They easily warmed up to the others they had met at the Superbowl party as we sat in clusters of 4 or 5 eating dinner together. They joined in for the time of Scripture study, and Sue even offered her own observations in the discussion. Over the next couple months Sue and Bob continued to return to our small group gatherings.

After a few meetings, as Bob seemed to grow more comfortable with this group of 5 or 6 couples, he also started to contribute his own observations. I noticed in the way Bob talked that he did accept God as a real being, but he really made no reference to Jesus.  After a few more weeks I said to him that I would get together with him so we could get to know each other better. Since his class was done by 2:00 each afternoon, we met at a local McDonalds for a mid-afternoon “Coke” (“pop” for you Midwesterners).

As I heard more of his story, I also began to talk about Jesus as God’s gift to us. I began to talk about surrendering one’s eternal destiny to the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. He indicated that God had certainly gotten him out of a number of scrapes during his tours of duty in the US military and that it was about time he did something for God. So during one of our meetings, he chose to submit his life to Jesus as his Savior and Lord.

Often we plant, water, and weed seeds of the Gospel on people’s lives. When I was a church planter, it seemed that my role provided me with the setting to often sit alongside someone as that seed springs out of the ground and claims, “Yes, I too want to be considered one of His.” In the last several years of spending most of my time writing discipleship materials and training people to use those materials in their churches, I did not have that opportunity near as often. So my opportunity with Bob gave me rejuvenating joy for many weeks.

I was so happy for Bob and his wife Sue and their children. I continued to talk with Bob afterward about what that decision meant for his role as a husband and father.

Proxemics (We’ll come back to Bob.)

You may have never heard of Edwin T. Hall and “Proxemics” but you probably understand the concept from experience. The basic premise is that in communication, the physical distance between one person and another affects the way they interact and the speak with each other.

Here’s the basic breakdown:

< 1.5 feet                 Intimate distance which involves embracing, touching, or whispering.

1.5 – 4 feet                Personal distance for interactions among close friends or family

4-12 feet                  Social distance for interaction among acquaintances

12-25+ feet              Public distance which is used for public speaking

Hall points out that people communicate differently into those spaces. The “Intimate distance” around us is what we call our “personal space.”  If your spouse enters your intimate space from behind and reaches to hug you, you likely welcome such intrusion. If a stranger approaches you from behind and gets closer than 1.5 feet, you sense it with alarm. A stranger has not earned the right to enter your intimate space. Your natural reaction will be flight, fight, or freeze.

Now let’s think of the activities of the local church in terms of proxemics.

  • Public space: This would include Sunday worship or other large events.

  • Social space: often applies to the Sunday worship of smaller churches. I recently attended a worship service of a church that had over 90 people in the room. The preacher that morning on several occasions asked for feedback from the congregation. They were easy answers that were just one or two words long. But only people in the front 6 rows (under 12 feet from the speaker) responded.

  • Personal space: This often occurs in small groups, especially ones that meet in homes.

  • Intimate space: This occurs between believers who have formed a close friendship.

What does this have to do with discipleship?  It turns out that understanding proxemics can be a powerful tool for helping people grow as disciples. Let’s look back to Bob’s story.

Bob and his wife first approached public space by attending Sunday worship services. The church hosted a Superbowl party, which gave him the opportunity to enter social space with the church members. This led to his joining the personal space of a small group. Finally, through our relationship in the small group, Bob moved into intimate space as we met one-on-one. Through those meetings, Bob came to a relationship with Christ.

As you can see, understanding how communication works in different group sizes can impact your approach to not only leading people to Christ but also discipleship. Someone unfamiliar with church is not necessarily ready to dive directly into a small group or one-on-one mentorship. And someone seriously interested in discipleship needs more than a public worship service.

This is just one application of the concept of proxemics. Churches I’ve coached have found it immensely helpful in organizing their programs and ministries more effectively for reaching and helping different groups of people. Churches often fall into the trap of becoming “over-programmed,” leaving the staff fatigued and producing little fruit. Understanding what types of ministries help people at different stages in their walk with Christ enables a church to synergize and streamline their programs to become more fruitful and less overwhelming.

This concept as well as many others is covered in much greater detail in DiscipleForward, our seminars for church leaders and staff. The next DiscipleForward is coming up on October 10-11 at Houston Baptist University. (Visit here for more details). If you can’t make this one, you can also bring the seminar to your community or in your church. You can find and request more information here or by emailing info@ascendingleaders.org.

Cultivating Community

Though community is challenging, there’s an often overlooked way to cultivate it. That is the practice of hospitality. If you’re dissatisfied with your community or don’t have one at all, showing hospitality is a way to take agency and change your situation. In our culture, hospitality is not a primary value, but cultures around the world and many of the oldest myths make it one of the highest virtues. Regardless of cultural values, it is the pathway to community, and it is commanded in Scripture.

Paul wrote to the Romans, “Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality” (Rom. 12:13). Paul’s ministry depended on Christians’ hospitality (Rom. 16:23), as did the the other apostles’ ministries. John wrote, “We ought therefore to show hospitality to such people so that we may work together for the truth” (3 John 8). Spreading the gospel and making disciples starts in the home. To build God’s kingdom, we need each other’s support, whether with prayers, finances, a meal, or a place to stay.

The first part of Romans 12:13, “Share with the Lord’s people who are in need,” is the easier part, because it only takes so much effort to share with people who clearly have less than us. But the second part of the verse simply states “Practice hospitality” without qualifying to whom we show it. It’s harder to practice it with people who have more. We make excuses that our home isn’t clean enough or big enough or because we can’t cook as well as so-and-so. But hospitality was never meant to be a contest. More likely than not, people will feel more at ease if your home isn’t perfect, and it may encourage them to be more open with their homes, too.

When you think of hospitality, you might picture a Southern Living home and a three-course meal. But that’s only one way of practicing it. Hosting a movie night, organizing a Bible study, and meeting a friend for coffee also show hospitality. When you’re tight on resources, you can be hospitable with your time. (The free download with this blog post lists alternative ways to show hospitality.)

Hospitality is based in the character of God. He made an unfathomable sacrifice in order to welcome us into his family. Thus, to practice hospitality is to practice godliness. In fact, being hospitable was a requirement for anyone to become overseer in the church or for any widows to be put on the charity list (1 Tim. 3:2, 5:10).

Ultimately, if you want to create a community or deepen one that you have, you will need to make sacrifices of your time and effort. You’re no more likely to stumble into a perfect, ready-made community any more than you’re likely to move into a new house with your ideal garden already perfectly manicured. Even if the relationships have already rooted, they need nurturing. A community that supports you through your discipleship journey is the most rewarding garden you can cultivate.

Community in the Gospels

In the last post, we looked at how community is part of God’s nature. Now we’ll look at community in the Gospels.

Jesus made community an inherent part of discipleship. He could have chosen a single disciple to mentor one-on-one, or he could have only talked to crowds. Instead, he created a community of twelve men to closely follow and learn from him. Even out of that twelve, he made three of them (Peter, James, and John) to be his close companions, rather than just one.

Jesus knew that one disciple could not fully begin to practice his teaching without being joined by others. You cannot learn to love, forgive, and sacrifice without other people to love, forgive, and sacrifice for. If he had chosen only one disciple, Jesus could only have taught theoretical knowledge. But by forming a group, his lessons often arose naturally out of the disciples’ conversations and even quarrels with each other. For instance, in Luke 9:46-48, the disciples argue over which one of them is the greatest, and Jesus took the opportunity to teach them that being great in his kingdom means being the least.

By choosing the twelve disciples, Jesus also acknowledged our need for community. We grow and receive strength from mutual encouragement, support, and sharpening. When Jesus stated that he was going to Judea, Thomas told the rest of the disciples, “Let us also go, that we may die with him” (John 11:16). His courage to follow Jesus, even though he fully expected to be killed, inspired the rest to do likewise.

Finally, the disciples formed the earliest example of a church. Learning to follow Jesus as a “church” body prepared them for building the Church after his ascension (we’ll look more that in the next post). Before going off to create more disciples and start the Church, they had to learn to be the Church themselves. Together they endured crises like the storm on the Sea of Galilee; together they saw miracles like Jesus feeding the 5,000; together they failed as when they could not cast out an evil spirit; and together they remained after their master was crucified and their hopes destroyed. Imagining one disciple experiencing all these things alone is enough proof that Jesus knew what he was doing when he made discipleship a communal journey.

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